I see a lot of girls posting on social media asking for tips and advice on how to get rid of their ‘tummy pouch’ or their ‘hip dips’. I have both of these things and never even saw them as an issue.
I always knew my lower tummy stuck out (as was kindly pointed out to me on occasion) but I never really focussed on it as being something I hated and needed to get rid of as I’d had it as long as I could remember.
As for hip dips, I didn’t even know they were a ‘thing’. I just accepted them as part of my body and had honestly never even noticed them.
I’d always been self conscious of my legs and thought they were ‘big’ but, seeing more and more girls posting on social media about wanting to get rid of their lower tummy’s and hip dips, made me begin to think that maybe I should be bothered about these things on myself and maybe I should get try and get rid of mine too.
We don’t even realise it but through social media we pass our own insecurities on to others. Before long, whenever I looked in the mirror they were all I could see.
So, feeling self conscious I began reading the articles and ‘tips’ on how to get rid of them. Obviously nothing I tried worked because most of them are bollocks.
I began going to the gym to ‘tone up’ and ‘slim down’ my legs and stomach. Initially I would only go to the gym when I knew my brother would be there, to help me get over my gym anxiety. I was always striving for ‘skinny’ and ‘toned’, I barely even trained upper body to begin with because if I wasn’t working towards making my legs skinny or my stomach flatter then what was the point in even being there? However, as my legs and core slowly started gaining strength, I realised that I liked feeling stronger and I began working towards a goal of lifting more rather than to change my physique.
Slowly but surely I began to fall in love with the gym and the benefits it had on my mental health. As a result I began to fall in love with myself and I realised:
My tummy sticks out at the bottom because I have a womb. I have hip dips because that’s the way my body is built. I have ‘big’ thighs because that’s where I store my fat.
My point is that social media has seriously fucked us all up whether we’ve noticed it or not. It’s the little constant things that affect us most. The constant ‘10 tricks to a flatter stomach’ and ‘how to slim your legs with these easy steps’ making you think you NEED a flat stomach, and perfect slim pins. Making you self conscious and paranoid to the point where you’re fixated on your apparent ‘flaws’ and can’t see the progress you’ve made with your strength and state of mind.
Im not 100% satisfied with my body, because I’m always striving for more, but I now train because I enjoy it and it improves my mental state, not because I hate my body and want to change it. I train to be stronger, not skinnier. I no longer worry about having a tummy pouch or hip dips, because really who gives a fuck? Getting rid of them won’t make you squat heavier, run faster or cycle further.
Once you realise this and connect with the mental benefits, you’ll be unstoppable and the physical changes will be a bonus.
So instead of concentrating on your flaws, concentrate on what you enjoy and your workouts will be much more enjoyable. Trust the process and fall in love with exercise and yourself over and over again.